Reality.....

My best friend Heather had to fly to Florida yesterday. Her Aunt Gloria has been battling breast cancer….and well, she is now in hospice care. It has hit me hard because 1. I cannot be there for my best friend and 2. What if that happens to me…..
Breast Cancer is no joke…..It sneaks up on you and then BAM turns your fuckin life upside down. Excuse my cussin ( I know Im suppossed be a good christian, but Im seriously pissed!) My best friends heart is breaking right now because of the horrid disease…and there is nothing I can do for her…. And I know she loves me with all her heart….so Is what she is watching right now giving her more anxiety and panic about me? Im sure it does…why…because thats how she is. When she loves someone, she loves them with every ounce of her being. The same goes for her mom (my soul moma). I feel like shit…because I must confess….I have not seen my Oncologist for my follow up. It was scheduled for early December (I had to cancel due to my operation) but I had no plans of rescheduling any time soon. I was in a mindset that I really didnt want to deal with it anymore….I needed a break….but what is going on with Gloria woke my ass up. Cancer does not take a break…so neither can I. I have to stay focused and on top of things…so I called and I go in next week. My biggest fear….that eventually they say Im no longer in remission (or N.E.D.) but I cant run from it no matter how scared I get……and so…I quote my most wonderful best friend, Heather, when I shout out

“Cancer……F YOU!”

Anti-Social....

That is me, these days. I can’t help it. Im seriously depressed. I have an appointment on Tuesday with a Psychiatrist…..hes gonna tell me what I already know…that im a frikin nutcase. I had the surgery on December 3rd….was in the hospital for a while….yada yada yada….you would think I would be excited about finally getting breasts again. I thought I would be to. Nope…..to much negative shit going on in my life to be happy about some stupid breasts. I feel like a failure as a mom…wife…woman. The root of it all…f’n money. I hate money. Probably because I dont have any! My husband works hard to just barely pay the bills….shit, half the time we have to make payment arrangements. We only have a christmas tree because My “soul momma” (heathers mom) sent us one. (She is such an amazing woman and my kids love her to pieces! “Soul Nana”).
I have $0.00 to buy gifts….so my kids already know that we wont be buying gifts this year. They were really understanding about it. My 6 year old gave me a hug and told me not to worry. She said “Santa will get us something, so its okay mama”. Yeah…. Which leads to another dilema…..I don’t even know how Im going to put “santa” gifts for the younger two under the tree. Its killing me inside right now. This past year has been hell for not only me…but for them….and they deserve to have some happiness at Christmas….but Nooooooo…..Once again, I can’t do shit for them. Im so tired of this same frickin song and dance. Always something holding me down….First it was the Cancer, the treatments. Now its still Cancer shit plus full blown Osteoparosis and Athritis of the Spine…..Fibromyalgia flaring……dealing with the chance of reoccurance and what to do about my bones…..5 surgeries in 1year and 2 months time! Damn! Im ready to just say “f*ck all the medicines and BS” and get back to some sort of normalcy. Seriously….my bones are all f’d up and if I stay on my “cancer med” its just gonna cause more bone loss….the Femara is at best only gonna buy me some extra time…..the Cancer is going to come back…so why not take my chances. Im doing my family no good being layed up because of all this. Im tired of meds…im tired of doctors….im tired of being angry or depressed all the time….Im tired off all the f’n scars (scars on the outside and the inside)and Im tired of not being able to provide for my kids. Everyone tells me that God wont give you more than you can handle…but Im really starting to think thats a load of BS! Because Im really beginning to lose it and I can’t handle this shit anymore…….

Dear God....

Dear God…..
I thank you so much for blessing me with my 4 beautiful children and my hardworking, loving husband. I thank you for allowing me to be here with them another day and keeping my cancer in remission. I thank you for keeping a roof over our head and clothes on my childrens back. I know we are not worthy of all this and I pray that you forgive us of our sins.
Lord, I come to you now asking that you continue to give me the strength to fight the depression that I dont understand. I pray you give me courage to continue to push through the pain. I pray that you continue to put your hand over my children and guide them, giving them strength and understanding to deal with the tough times ahead. I pray you continue to keep us together, strong as a family unit. I pray you continue to keep food on our table, lord, because its been hard trying to find the means to do so lately. Lord, I pray for quick healing so that I can go back to work….. my husband has been working so hard these days just to keep us in our home. I pray for a release of stress on him lord….I fear that his heart may faulter under all the stress. I pray to you, now, lord with my eyes overflowing with tears and I pray that you can help wipe them away.
In your wonderful and gracious name, I pray.
Amen

A lil psychotic

yeah…thats me, alright. Im a frickin body full of anxiety, bitchiness, tears, and everything else you can possibly think of…….Never mind the financial BS that is putting an awful curtain of tension through out my house or the physical BS that is limiting everything and anything I want to do….Now I have to be seperated from my family for 1-3 weeks, depending on how my surgery goes this coming Wednesday. Im going to be 3 f’n hours away from everyone, so I can pretty much count on being the patient that nurses pity cuz the patient gets absolutly NO visitors. I dont have an f’n cell phone so I cant call anyone, I got to wait for people to call me…..And before anyone says anything like “it was your choice to have this operation”, I already know this! But I wish the people that had that attitude could see what it feels like to live without breasts….live with these deflated expanders that barely come off the chest…hard as a frickin rock. Live with that for just one week….never mind a whole year and 2 months. People just dont get it….Im f’n broken….physically, mentally, emotionally, financially…..Im f’n broken…..cant anyone understand that? Im beginning to hate the f’n color pink…..Im f’n tired of what Cancer has done to me….I hate what Cancer can still do to me! I have had my breasts taken from me….Ive had my ovaries taken from me……I had my beautiful long hair taken from me….Ive had my spirit cut in half…..Only thing I gained in this whole f’n ordeal has been 60 f’n lbs! Just lovely…..Ive become an overweight, breastless, angry PERSON. Ive had my positive energy sucked right out of me……So….Yes, If they can give me just an inkling of some womanhood back…Im taking it….but it doesnt mean that I cant be worried, sad, scared, anxious…everything that I am right now…..

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Dec 07

WOW….it’s been a while….

So, I guess I have alot of updating to do. LOL The holidays have gone smoothly. On Friday Dec 21st my husband and son took off to South Carolina for a family gathering. The girls and I stayed here and did a “girls” weekend. I even let my oldest daughter have a few friends over. […]

Posted on December 31st, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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“Tough times don’t last, tough people do”

That is something she has been trying to remember these days. Her emotions have been on a roller coaster ride since September. Do you ever feel like you have all these oppossing forces banging inside you? One minute your full of spunk and spirit, the next your totally rattled feeling like doom is lurking. She is not sure how to […]

Posted on December 22nd, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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You gotta take the good with the bad……aaargh..*(cringes)*

Okay, I guess I should get the bad news issues out of the way first. A little over a month ago my husband was having dizzy spells and slight chest pains. I immedietly called for him to see the doctor. See my husband is 36. His dad had his first massive heartache (actually 2 in […]

Posted on December 13th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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My Christmas Tree!!!

I can’t believe I forgot to post this!!!!!!
Thanks to “my” wonderful Heather (Mom on Coffee), we actually have a Christmas Tree. I couldn’t believe it when I answered the door this past Friday and there was a Christmas Tree waiting for me. And its not just any Christmas Tree. It has long soft beautiful needles….basically […]

Posted on December 12th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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Revelation

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and I have come to the conclusion that I must have an alter ego. I am usually a very passive, non-confrontational type personality (unless someone messes with my children….then uh oh…it’s on and poppin!). However, I was not always like that and every now and then something will […]

Posted on December 10th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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My top 5 Breast Cancer Rants for the week!

Parental advisory: Todays blog is very blunt and may even have vulgar words! **gasp**
Okay, so everyone has their lil gripes, right? Rather than hold em in and let them fester and fester and fester to the point of explosion……lets just get em all out in the open, eh?! I could go screaming through my house like […]

Posted on December 3rd, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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“weirded out”

I am not really sure what is going on with my mental state during this round of chemo. I have been an irritable Bi@tch, with a capital “B”. Seriously. The marinol my doc prescribed for me has helped with the naseau, but my moods have been crazzzy! I am irritated with myself! I am, now, […]

Posted on December 1st, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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Nov 07

2nd Chemo down…..

I went for my oh-so-pleasant poisoning of the system (other wise known as Chemotherapy) today. I forgot to have my mom take a pic of the lovely ritual, but for some reason I konked out rather quickly at this session. I basically slept through it! My mom ended up going on home for a while. LOL Oh well, there […]

Posted on November 23rd, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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“Bald is Beautiful!”

Okay. So I had myself all prepared for my hair to fall out….or so I thought. Over the past week I had a few hairs fallin out periodically, but nothin major. I started to think that maybe it was going to just thin out and not fall out. Buzzzz……..WRONG ANSWER! lol Friday, we noticed quite […]

Posted on November 18th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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Im up! yeaaah!

I went to the doctors yesterday for my labwork. My bloodwork came back really good! My doctor was so impressed. The nurse was joking and said “did we even give you chemo?! Your labs are amazing!”. So, I am feeling really good (emotionally) at this time. Physically, I am feeling better than I have since […]

Posted on November 10th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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WOW….

Have I mentioned that this really bites? LOL I had my first chemo, a week ago today. I looked bright red and felt really tired, but I was like “cool….I can handle this….no problem”. Then, the pounding headache kicked in……the nauseau kicked in……the major, major aching bones kicked in…..the constipation kicked in…..all at once mind […]

Posted on November 8th, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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1 Chemo down.

However many more treatments it takes to kick cancers ass to go.
The chemo side effects have kicked in for Andrea already. When I spoke with her yesterday, she said she looked like she had a nasty sunburn. She was in getting a shot that will help her blood cells rebound which will make her feel better. […]

Posted on November 3rd, 2007 by momoncoffee
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Round 2….

Let the Chemo begin!
Im getting ready to head out for my first 5 hour round of Chemo. The Regimen I am having is called “TAC” which stands for Taxotere, Adriamyan, and Cytoxan. According to my Oncologist, these three combined are the most aggressive approach and most brutal……but hey….I just wanna someday hear the words “You […]

Posted on November 1st, 2007 by mysticalmommy73
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